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Amanda Earl's avatar

trust baggage: thank you for this term, which i have never heard before,but it absolutely describes my own issues and how i handle it when i am supposed to trust people. i get into ultra control mode. i have to rely on people to do their jobs correctly for the events taking place next Tuesday and it is very difficult for me not to try to hyper control everything, or to reach out to those who haven't taken the time or made the effort to communicate. i have to trust that all will be ok. it's so damn hard. i'm glad things worked out with your friend about your shift and that Candy's knee is healing after surgery. sending hugs and love.

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Wake Lloire's avatar

I am glad to have named a thing that you also experience. I think I often end up working alone on things because of this baggage.

I’m so grateful that you’ve made me feel safe working with you. I don’t often feel that way.

I very rarely was able to work with people in planning and orchestrating shows. I’m grateful to the few co-conspirators who made things easier.

If I’m working in someone else’s project and they’ve treated me kindly I’m the best ally, the hardest worker.

But if someone is cruel to me…I don’t put up with it anymore. I have a very short fuse when it comes to being bullied, or diminished.

I so know that feeling of needing to be in control. I appreciate you so very much, sharing your experiences.

I work every day at trusting the people around me. I’m so grateful to have a partner who sees me and who gets where my issues come from. They earned my trust, slowly but surely. I am grateful to have a person in my life that I trust so very much. One who quells the demons whispering that no one is trustworthy.

I’m grateful for my friends, for you, and the people I’m meeting who are proving that my trust is well placed.

I wish I could come to your event! I love attending the things you help to facilitate.

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Amanda Earl's avatar

gratitude to you, my dear. for being so wonderfully communicative and honest in your posts and for being a dear friend and for being a whimsical, amazing writer. Charles is also great for quelling my trust demons. i can rely on him in every way. of course, i fret about health possibilities. sigh.

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Marble's avatar

“and then realized that sometimes my instincts are good ones.” 🫶🏻

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Wake Lloire's avatar

🫶🫶🫶

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You’re definitely not alone.

I’m so glad to know you.

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Wake Lloire's avatar

Thank you for being a part of my day 💖💖💖 and for being my friend. I feel grateful every day that you took a chance on our long distance friendship. I still remember the first letter you sent after I moved away and how lucky I am that our friendship is the forever kind. 🫶🫶🫶

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